Revenge or Forgiveness: It’s Our Choice

By Agnes Ann Mills

Forgiving from the heart is what Jesus wanted when He taught us to pray, “Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.” Pray with a heartfelt desire to be forgiving and forgiven.

Oh, the self-punishment of holding a grudge…“Non-forgiveness locks us into a victim role where our only power is a false power of hatred. (Jan Alkire)” Release any feelings of resentment, hatred or the desire to punish. 

Revenge causes injury and destroys.  Forgiveness brings harmony and restores. Forgiveness is for me not them.

God wants to bless our futures.  “It’s simple: When you haven’t forgiven those who’ve hurt you, you turn your back against your future. When you do forgive, you start walking forward. (Tyler Perry)”

In the Gospels, Jesus talks about the importance of forgiveness. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that what happened is acceptable.  It doesn’t mean we must forget.  I believe it means to let-go of the wish that the past were different.

View forgiveness as an ability to recognize the humanity in others.  View forgiveness as an act of courage.

Everyone who learns how to forgive becomes less angry, feels less hurt, and is more optimistic. People who forgive are happier and healthier than those who hold resentments.

Bless your persecutors; never curse them, bless them…
Never pay back evil with evil. … Never try to get revenge…
Do not be mastered by evil, but master evil with good (Romans 12:14-21)



About Paul Wharton

I am a cradle Catholic, a native West Virginian, and a priest since April 24, 1982. Spiritual Direction has made a tremendous difference in my life and I encourage people to try it out. My motto is "Progress not perfection." I am grateful that God has done for me what I could not do for myself.
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One Response to Revenge or Forgiveness: It’s Our Choice

  1. Manny says:

    Another home run Padre! Your blogs continously nourish my soul. Thank you.

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